Habitsdormire sul divano

I have always wondered why it is difficult to keep a good habit constant.

  • Maybe I don’t have enough willpower?
  • Is my goal not so important to me?
  • Is it simply laziness?


Some examples:

I would like to meditate in the morning.

To be constant, I decide to take a 21-day meditation course. I follow him with discipline and routine and soon start to feel the benefits.

After 21 days I could start the course again or look for another one.

What happens instead? I quit.

My mind, with subtle tenderness and sweetness, whispers to me that I can take a “break”, even for a few days.

And like all good habits interrupted, starting again is really tiring.


Another example: Yoga.

I tried a couple of times to go to the gym to do yoga and honestly it didn’t drive me crazy … I probably didn’t like the instructors.

Despite this, yoga practice fascinates me, especially the meditative part.

I then bought an online course: for 30 days each day I received a 30-minute lesson via email.

The idea of ​​finding a different lesson in my mail each day was an appointment I couldn’t miss, the course was really well done and the teacher was very good.

I started May 1st and finished the 30th, missing the appeal probably only a few days, but then I stopped.


Willpower is a limited resource

I recently read about some scientific studies on willpower: in short it was discovered that the latter is a limited resource and as such should be measured.

Every day, in one form or another, we exercise willpower. We resist the temptation to surf the web instead of finishing the file we’re working on. We choose a salad when we crave spaghetti. We bite our tongue when we would like to make a contemptuous remark. Yet a growing number of research shows that resisting temptation repeatedly has a mental cost. Some experts consider willpower to be a muscle that can be fatigued from overuse. (American Psychological Association – APA).


Good habits and how to manage will power.

For this reason it is always advised to establish a good habit at a time, because we draw the necessary strength from the same source, a non-infinite source.

Planning the year, month, week and day with this new awareness and knowledge can be even more effective: it will be important to avoid concentrating too many demanding activities that require considerable willpower at the same time, trying instead to distribute this resource with strategic planning, a bit like we do with the budget and economic resources.

This is why I love working on the annual vision: besides creating the logical thread of the activities and understanding how to grow my projects and my goals, it also allows me to identify the priorities and areas of my life in specific months.

For example: if I decide that July is the month to launch my blog, then I will have to be careful not to add new challenges, like starting a guided meditation path.

My concentration and my energies would fragment.

If June is the month I want to dedicate to my physical form with a new workout routine, all my willpower will be concentrated there and other things will be left “behind”.

I think the fundamental point is not to pretend to be able to do everything, but to know how to intelligently distribute one’s energy and attention in such a way as to establish new positive habits … as always a simple tiny shift at a time!


Further reading:

Article – “What You Need to Know about Willpower” – American Psychologica Association (APA)

“The Happiness Advantage” – Shawn Achor