Starting a project, an activity, a new challenge, a new adventure that puts us to the test, can be exciting but could face us with difficulties and obstacles.
The fear of failure
Sometimes we prevent ourselves from starting a journey because we do not know where it will take us nor do we know what steps to take.
Doing everything well the first time, making the right choice, “guessing” them all … this pressure leads more to give up than to try. Result: we don’t even try.
According to Robert Biswas-Diener, of Portland State University courage can be trained, it can be developed. To do this, you need two tools: “The determination to act and the ability to keep your fear under control”, and we can work on both. The second can be defused by paying less attention to the costs of a possible action and more to the benefits that it can entail, for us or for others.
The first, however, is strengthened when we grant ourselves “permission to fail. The brave do what they do not because they are sure that everything will be fine, but because they do not worry about a possible failure ».
Courage, Biswas-Diener argues, is the key to happiness. It is the tool that allows us to face small and large obstacles more serenely and to cope with the difficulties we encounter in our daily journey. And above all, on closer inspection, it allows us to be at peace with ourselves.
Perfectionism and procrastination
Perfectionism or even the idea of having to acquire more skills and more knowledge before starting a project is the highest form of procrastination that exists.
The lie of time
There are other ways to procrastinate. The lie of time is certainly the most popular. Time is a democratic resource, it is the same for everyone. We just have to learn to manage it according to our priorities.
The block of the comparison
Never as in this period have all generations, especially the younger ones, but not only, tend to compare themselves with others with the result of feeling depressed and discouraged.
“Social media is training us to compare our livers, instead of appreciating everything we are” – Bill Murray
focus less on the impression you’re making on others and more on the impression you’re making on yourself. – AMY CUDDY
Sometimes we fall into the error of comparing ourselves to others and seeing the “shifts” of others as more effective, sudden, faster.
In reality we see our life with the magnifying glass: being inside we see every little aspect and living every moment, it is as if everything moved in a much slower way.
Looking at the life of others from time to time, and seeing only the successes achieved (or what is shown to us through social media) does not make us account for all those moments between one success and the other and above all it does not show us all the failures and failures that intersperse the successes shown.
Simple Tiny Shifts: a new mentality to overcome these obstacles and plan one’s life and realize one’s potential.
Simple: the action to be taken can also be very simple or in any case simple for me, within my reach. I’m not asking myself to do who knows what or to apply talents or knowledge that I don’t have.
Tiny: gives me the ability to do anything. It is not necessary that every action is that of a turning point or that it is a large enterprise. I say to myself: “Do anything, even small, very small indeed. But do it. “
Shift: as shifting and as change: shift (simple and micro) towards my goal and change of my mindset a little at a time.
- Clarify what I want to achieve – with the section “Designing my year”
- Turn My vision into action – brainstorming with the “Make it Real” section
- Apply My plan in everyday life – with the section Planning my year”
- Track and track my progress – with monthly and annual reviews in “Review the Target”