Thinking about your legacy will add meaning to your life.
When my uncle died last December, I cried no stop for weeks. And I’m still crying once in a while.
I’ve experienced an infinite sadness and I felt so empty and useless.
I felt small.
I’ve always recognized his value. He was a great man, a great inspiration, a great leader and businessman, a very compassionate person.
He was one of those people who rarely meet in life. I was, I am, so blessed to have known him and to be loved by him. I don’t know if he knew how much he meant to me.
When he passed away, my first thought was “Was I be enough?” “Was I worth his love?”
I hope so.
I’m crying for the missing lessons.
My uncle was the kind of person who had a talent and he used it since he was 7 years old.
He started from nothing. He is the only person that I know that truly can say that. He had no much support from my grandfather: a farmer, clever but not easy going.
He always followed his talents, passions, instincts. He built a successful and meaningful life. His beautiful spirit has touched many lives.
The day he died I was traveling to my hometown visiting my parents.
I was very tired. I worked a lot in the last months creating my own project. I was so exhausted that my face was getting old.
As soon as I’ve arrived at my parent’s place, I asked: “How is my uncle?”
My dad said, “Sit down”.
I started crying.
For the next 7 days, I took a break from my project and I took refuge in books. My uncle death made me think about my legacy.
Who will cry when you die?
Robin Sharma intrigued me in those days. He was releasing his new book “The 5 AM Club”. Before purchasing it, I did have a look at the list of his books.
One above all caught my attention: “Who will cry when you die?”.
This title shook me.
I was afraid to ask myself this question.
I bought it.
Here are some of the many beautiful and precious insights from the book:
“Kindness, quite simply, is the rent we must pay for the space we occupy on this planet.”
“We are all here for some unique purpose, some noble objective that will allow us to manifest our highest human potential while we, at the same time, add value to the lives around us.”
“Are you using the best within you to its fullest capacity?”
“To live your life to the fullest, start taking more risks and doing the things you fear.”
“Words are like arrows: once released, they are impossible to retrieve. So choose yours with care.”
and my favorite one:
“We want fulfillment, creative challenge, growth, joy and a sense that we are living for something more than ourselves.”
Thinking about my legacy actually added meaning to my life.
This my new own project is first of all my Ikigai and my little contribution to the world. I realized that’s the tip of the iceberg and now I can see the big picture. I’ve always known it, but the pressure of the daily tasks made me lose the big picture.
Now it’s clear again.
Thank you, uncle, for reminding me this.
This is for sure his last lesson for me.
Don’t be afraid to ask yourself.
Who will cry when you die?
What is your big picture?